What a flammable heart I've been given.

consider the bank.

gyzym:

You know, a few months ago this dude friend of mine showed up to hang out with me all dejected. Over a couple of drinks he explained his long face — earlier that night, he’d been walking down the street behind this really cute girl, and when she looked back at him over her shoulder, he thought it was in interest and smiled at her. Now, this guy is tall and skinny, can most commonly be found in glasses and t-shirts scrawled across with math jokes, is kind to animals, considers himself a feminist. What he doesn’t consider himself is threatening, so he was surprised, confused, and even hurt by what happened next: the girl in front of him responding to his called greeting of, “Nice skirt,” by taking off down the darkened street in a dead run. 

“Yeah,” I said, “she probably thought you were going to rape her.” 

“But that’s not fair,” he said. “I’m a good person; I’d never rape anyone! How could she think that? She doesn’t even know me.” 

Out here in the wilds of the internet, I often find myself making arguments about shit like feminism and rape culture unilaterally. For one thing, there’s so much (like, so much) out there arguing unilaterally against this shit that I feel it’s necessary; for another thing, ‘round these parts there’s a lot of people jumping to hostility when it’s painfully clear they don’t have a handle on all the facts. But I’m more lenient with the people in my real life, especially dudes like the one mentioned above. I’m willing to extend to them a patience that I wouldn’t with strangers on the internet, because they matter to me, and it matters to me that they understand. So when my friend sat there that night, whining over his beer and responding to my attempted explanations with, “But I’d love it if a girl smiled at me on the street, or even catcalled at me! Fuck, even if a dude did it, I’d be flattered,” I decided to spend some time thinking about how to clear things up for him. It took awhile, but I finally came up with a metaphor to get the job done:

Consider the bank. 

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Hey guys! Just to let you know that I met a friend of mine for dinner tonight and we’ve both decided that as of July 1st, we’re going to block ourselves from tumblr for a while to focus on other pursuits. For me at least, whilst I get to talk to all you wonderful people on this site, I feel like a bigger chunk of my life than I’d like to admit is getting taken up by it, which could be put to much better use. This sumer I want to do more with hitRECord, and possibly invest in some other media programs and whatnot.

Of course, I do not want to lose track of any of you! I doubt it will be a permanent thing but for the meantime, if you want to stay in contact with me, I’ll still be around on FB, Skype and of course there’s always good old email or snail mail! Just message me and I’ll give you any details you would like.

But yes; July 1st, I’m blocking tumblr. This is actually terrifying me a little, but it needs to be done, at least for now.